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Self-Image in the Job Search*
Many of us already realize that self-image, the way you view yourself and your competency, plays an important role in how you perform in your job search. For instance, it is not likely that you will be able to effectively demonstrate your value to potential employers, if you don’t believe that you possess much value. Also, if your sense of self is overblown, that is, if you are conceited and arrogent, you will probably fair no better in this respect. The following considerations and tips* show some of the ways in which self-image impacts upon your ability to find the job you want.
Low self-confidence sabotages your job search.
Having a low self-confidence can undermine your efforts- in your language, appearance, body language, voice, and general demeanor. It will even sabotage your most thoughtfully crafted cover letters- the ones that accompany your résumé. Instead of writing, “I have a proven record of developing effective management information systems,” you state, “I hope to have the opportunity to work on your management information system.” There is a world of difference between “proven” and “hope.”
Know your weaknesses, announce your strengths.
In job searches you are marketing a product- you. If you don't believe in yourself, why should a manager hire you? If you are selling cars, you concentrate on strong points like good mileage and leather seats. You don't mention poor collision safety records or limited trunk space. Emphasize your strong points when marketing yourself. Job developers, like everyone else, want to support someone with an “I can do it” attitude. It makes them more comfortable in hiring you.
Improve your self-confidence by understanding your past.
When working to improve your self-confidence, consider the origins of your negative traits. Poor self-confidence is a learned behavior. Did your father emphasize defects in your character? Did your first boss try to hold you back to protect his own job? For a clue to where your problems lie, identify situations where your lack of self-confidence seems particularly intense.
To help build your self-confidence, use the following practices…
…Set rational goals.
Don't expect overnight miracles. It takes time. Listening to one motivational tape isn't going to change your personality. Take small steps at first, like standing taller. Build up to bigger challenges, like better grammar. Small victories increase your self-confidence.
…List your strong points.
You'll be surprised to realize you do so many things well. This lays a solid foundation for developing your personal improvement plan.
…Sound and look confident.
Start using positive terms in conversation. Remind yourself throughout the day to smile more and maintain eye contact. Monitor the difference in people's reactions to you.
…Develop networking skills.
Initiate more conversations with strangers at conferences, parties, or church. People appreciate those who show an interest in them. Watch people with good networking and people skills. Observe the traits that attract people. Traits you admire in others are often the ones you need to develop. Imitate the positive qualities you admire in others. Concentrate on one trait at a time, like smiling when meeting people. These traits will soon be second nature, and you won't even think about them during an interview.
…Recruit your spouse and friends.
You can't improve your image alone. You need your family and friends to help you recognize weaknesses and reinforce new skills. Seek out cohorts who exhibit self-confidence. People with poor self-images will only emphasize your poor traits, thus reinforcing your negative behavior.
…Join self-help organizations.
There are many organizations that can help you improve your skills and enhance your self-confidence. If making speeches before groups scares you, consider a self-help organization like Toastmasters or an evening community college speech course.
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